Friendzoned.

The friendzone. Guy loves girl, girl only likes guy as a friend. Guy spends mind-numbing HOURS listen to girl bitch about problems such as: "All men are ASSHOLES" or "OHMYGAWD WHYYYY did he never text me baaaaacccckk after 10 minutes, he must be cheating on meeeeee" or, my personal favourite: "Oh my god, I'M SO UGLY...no I AM. NO I AM! Tell me how pretty I am, so I can boost my ever-growing ego."

But then, guy gets a girlfriend, so we would think that as guy and girl are just friends then nothing would change, right? No, not right. Girl acts all cutesy and overly affectionate to guy in front of girlfriend. Girl constantly texts guy when she knows he's with girlfriend. Girl leaves guy long facebook wall posts with messages like: "We never hang out anymooooore, why do we never hang out anyyymoreeeee? Just the two of usssss? ;) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"

All of this seems rather hypocritical to guy. Back in the days of the friendzone, even the faintest whiff of a relationship would cause girl to stop all form of contact with guy for as long as that relationship would last. And, although guy really likes girlfriend, he still keeps in contact with girl, replying to her texts and facebook messages, and answering her calls at 3 a.m, even though all he can hear is breathing coming from the other end.

So this, effectively terminates his relationship with girlfriend. She tells guy she can't cope being in a relationship with him, because of how terrified she is of his bunny-boiler stalker. And who could blame her? I mean, anyone would be scared off after seeing girl with her tear-streaked face pressed up against the window, one rainy afternoon, mouthing "I love you".

So guy is single again. Will girl finally snap him up? Oh no, now that he's actually available, and being with him wouldn't hurt anyone, she loses all interest, and they go back to their platonic hellhole.

Lookbook #2

Well this one doesn't appear brilliant on here, does it? Oh dear, it's fine on the main site tho, so it's fine.

Both the pictures I have used so far (and probably more to come) were taken by Hazelaine. She's one of my older friends, and by older I mean the amount of time I have know her, not age wise. Luckily she goes to the same University as me, so she's always nearby when I need her, and next year I am living with her, which I cannot wait for.

Even if she does make me sit on benches in nothing but a t-shirt when it is FREEZING, for art. Ahem...

Lookbook's back

So a couple of year ago, me and some friends were into this website called lookbook. It's one of those sites where you need an invitation code, so of course members feel as though they're very elite. We joined back when the site was tiny, and before the invite code. (BOOM) We all kind of forgot about lookbook, we couldn't be bothered assembling clothes which fitted together in a perfect outfit, and going out to take pictures of said look, especially when we never faired particularly well anyways.

But as I now have this blog, which I hope to use for a) practicing my article skillz and b) as a fashion blog, I thought lookbook wouldn't be the worst way to go about advertising the fashion part. So here we go, lookbook look #1:

Procrastination

A term I am sure all students are familiar with is procrastination. We all do it; there's an essay due in in a week's time and we do everything we possibly can to avoid the task at hand.

In fact, only today, in order to avoid the essay sat on his desk, my housemate cleaned our disgusting kitchen all by himself. And when I say disgusting, I mean it. There was a wok there with someone's month old bolognese which had solidified on the bottom. There was a cereal bowl, with something which I'm guessing was once milk, but now looked like a small blue furry creature. Not to mention all the plates, cups and baking trays which were in considerably high piles.

So why do we do it? Is it because we're lazy bums who come to university for the party lifestyle and think that the work can wait? Or is there another reason?

Psychological studies (like Klassen, Krawchuk and Rajani, 2008) have shown that a person's likeliness to procrastinate correlates with self-worth. This means that if a person doesn't believe in their abilities, they will be more inclined to delay the task for as long as possible.

To an extent, I agree with this. Take my journalism class for instance. The most confident members of the class have their work done and submitted way before the deadline, while the least confident will always leave it until the day before. Quite often they pull all-nighters, aided by their packs of pro-plus and six-packs of energy drinks.

But I don't seem to fit into this assumption. I procrastinate, never so that I leave everything to the last possible minute, but so that I always do end up feeling rushed. Even now, I am writing this blog entry when I should be finishing my feature article, which is due the day after next. But I definitely wouldn't describe myself as having a low self-worth. I mean, I know when I do get the work in, I won't get a bad grade. I don't think my article will be top of the class or anything like that, but I know my grade will be one that I'll be happy with.

It's all about self-discipline. Sure, I could boost by grade from a 2:1 to a first if I start my work a week earlier and craft it into a masterpiece, but equally, I could be playing some super-competitive Mario kart with my boyfriend, or watch pokemon and eat dominos pizza with my fellow procrastinating course-mates. It's more enjoyable. Why should I sacrifice hours and hours of my precious youth, when I know I'll get a grade I'll be perfectly content with.

Don't get me wrong, when I have a full-time job in the real world when I'm all grown up, of course I will work my hardest and make sure everything is the best that I can make it. As it stands, if I get a bad grade now, that's all that happens. I'm a bit gutted and I make it up in another assignment. In the real world, however, I know that if I submit something rubbish, it isn't just me who suffers, it's the organization I will work for, and that would just be unfair.

But until then, to all you students who go through university, striving to get your work done to the best of your abilities, I take my hat of to you. You're a far better worker than I.